Never fear to be extraordinary

Never fear to be extraordinary

It might seem counter intuitive, but when you think about it, achieving highly ambitious, truly meaningful goals that many perceive to be unrealistic or unreasonable is actually easier that achieving goals that don’t really set your heart on fire.

There are several reasons for this. Firstly you will have a lot less competition because the vast majority of people aim for mediocrity or compromise or the conventional, and secondly you will feel far more motivated and adrenalin fuelled if your goal fires up your imagination, so much so that you will keep going and devote everything you can to overcoming whatever hurdles you encounter.

Every goal has obstacles, and you will only continue to do whatever it takes until you get where you want to go if what you are trying to achieve means everything to you.

On the other hand, if your goal is good but not great it won’t be inspiring and you may well give up, especially when you run up against the majority who put a lot of energy into achieving the conventional.

I am not talking about some sort of ego aggrandising goal. It has to be totally meaningful to you, otherwise what’s the point? How can you put your heart and soul into something unless it means everything to you?

Most people do not believe they are put on this earth to do great things. But if you are of average or above average intelligence and ability, why should you not aspire to be the next Nelson Mandela, or William Shakespeare, or Leonardo Da Vinci, or Isambard Kingdom Brunel?

The key is to find out what you really love doing, what comes naturally to you that others find difficult, what is your true passion, and develop the required skill, knowledge and experience to the utmost. You might need to get a training, or find the best teacher, guru or coach, whatever. You may even decide to go back to education.

So how do you know when you’ve found your passion?

Listen to your intuition, to the still small voice of your heart, for it will always guide you on your true path in life. Instead of doing what you think would be a good idea or a safe option, find the courage to allow yourself to be driven by your inner voice, which always knows what’s best for you.

Don’t listen to anyone who tells you it’s impossible to live your dream. Living your dream is a perfectly realistic thing to aspire to. Someone had a dream once that it would be possible for a human to walk on the moon. Most people dismissed it as idle fantasy. But a dream or vision is the first step to amazing human endeavour. We should celebrate our dreamers and visionaries.

The late guru Osho once said, “be realistic, plan for a miracle.” Seems like very sound advice!

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Understanding different types of care available for your loved one

Understanding different types of care available for your loved one

When looking for care for your loved one, the terminology surrounding the different types of care available can sometimes be confusing. It is important when considering a care home to understand whether continuity of care is available as your loved one’s needs may increase over time.

Our homes, in Southgate and Winchmore Hill, offer continuity of care for our residents in a supportive, safe and caring environment. We are able to offer families comprehensive care including:

Residential care – Provides ‘home-style’, live-in accommodation, with 24 hour-a-day supervised staffing for older people, who may need extra help and support with their personal care. Residents can enjoy dining facilities, and our social programmes and activities.

Nursing care – Provides 24 hour care and support, as above, but with added nursing care and assistance for residents who require input from and supervision by a registered nurse, who is in situ to devise and monitor care plans, provide and administer treatment and carry out timely medical interventions.

Dementia care – Depending on the particular needs of a resident they may be cared for within a residential placement or nursing placement.

Palliative care – End of life care is the care of residents whose condition no longer responds to treatment. We provide sensitive and compassionate care at this important time.

To find out more about our care homes and services please visit

www.autumn-gardens.com  or call 020 8344 2600.

Locations:

Autumn Gardens, 73 Trent Gardens, Southgate, London N14 4QB

Anastasia Lodge, 10-14 Arundel Gardens, Winchmore Hill, London N21 3AE

A tribute to George Georgiou of Toff’s Fish & Chips

A tribute to George Georgiou of Toff’s Fish & Chips

George was an integral part of Muswell Hill for many years both as a shop owner and playing his part in supporting the local community.

Following his untimely death from coronavirus there was an outpouring of tributes which described George as being “a pillar of the community” and having “a great sense of humour” as well as “a dear friend”, “a real gentleman” and “thoroughly decent man”.

George’s recent funeral saw the streets of Muswell Hill lined with people wanting to pay their last respects. It was fitting that such a popular man brought the area to a standstill. Whilst George will be missed, his family are determined to carry on and the restaurant will be open once again for table service on 3rd August alongside the takeaway service. To make a reservation please call 020 8883 8656.

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Free Resources for Anxiety and Stress

Free Resources for Anxiety and Stress

Leading therapist and anxiety specialist Paul Levrant has made some FREE resources available to help relieve some of the anxiety and worry the COVID-19 pandemic is causing, and to also help us cope with the stress of the lockdown situation.

He’s included self-help sheets based on CBT (Cognitive Behaviour Therapy) designed to lessen the sense of unease so many of us are feeling right now; along with some beautiful inspirational texts and classic poetry to uplift our spirits.

There are also free audios to download to help with sleep and relaxation; and a specially recorded reading by double-platinum selling artist Newton Faulkner. 

All these are available free to stream or download from Paul’s website here:

https://hypnowellness.co.uk/covid-19-anxiety-free-resources/

Newton Faulkner has also recorded an exclusive interview with Paul where they discuss practical and interesting ways of dealing with the situation. You can find that here:

If you’d like further advice on treatment for COVID-19 anxiety, there’s more information here:

https://hypnowellness.co.uk/covid-19-anxiety-treatment/

Paul is providing FREE phone consultations for COVID -19 anxiety and other issues and you can contact him personally on 0800 246 1838 or by email at:

paul@theanxietyspecialistlondon.co.uk 

Separated Families: Child Contact Arrangements During Covid-19 Crisis

Separated Families: Child Contact Arrangements During Covid-19 Crisis

Separated families usually have delicate arrangements in place so that children spend time with each parent, often balanced with stepfamilies and extended families.  With social distancing becoming the norm, schools closed, and the need to protect vulnerable family members, all these arrangements are being reviewed and changing.

There are additional issues to consider for families who have a court order defining the arrangements.  Some Court orders specify the way children can travel on public transport to meet parents, and obviously all these arrangements need to be reviewed now.  The first priority is the best interests of the children, so they cannot be put at risk in order to satisfy a Court order that was made before the crisis.   

There is helpful new guidance from the Child and Family Court Advisory and Support Service (CAFCASS), which is useful even if families are not separated. CAFCASS make recommendations to and their views are authoritative and often followed by the judge.

Court orders can be varied, based on the best interests of the child. However, returning to court to change arrangements should be the last resort.  If you have a Court order that is no longer practical or safe, you should review the arrangements and think about suitable alternatives. If it is safe and suitable to do so, communicate this to the other parent to try to agree changes. Courts are going to expect parents to do their best to make alternative arrangements following the spirit of agreements reached, but always to prioritise the health of their children and therefore the whole family. 

My experience is that during times of crisis, conflicts do not go away. They can escalate, with one party trying to exert a stronger position than might otherwise have been possible before the crisis. The Covid-19 crisis could become a continuing part of an ongoing family conflict. Perhaps one parent might make unreasonable demands, taking advantage of the crisis to insist on longer periods of contact, ostensibly to reduce the risk of infection. However, if it was not considered ideal for a child to spend overnights with a parent, then this might remain the case regardless of the coronavirus issues. Some parents might feel that a resident parent is using this crisis time as a means to limit contact, citing anxieties about social contact.

What should you do if you feel that other parent is using the current health crisis to disrupt contact, or to require unreasonable changes to arrangements? Think about getting some legal advice, to see how a court might judge things. This will inform your conversations with the other parent, or mediation, as you try to make new arrangements. Professional legal and mediation services are offering remote communication systems, such as skype, Zoom or telephone conference calls.   If there is a dispute developing, it is important that you tackle it early on. If you have any questions to ask about this article or any other articles in previous months, please do not hesitate to contact me at sb@hmbsolicitors.co.uk.

FREE CARE ADVICE

Local care agency Home Care Preferred, can provide a range of advice for people who may need care or support.

Although the company specialise in care in people’s own homes, they are also able to assist with providing other useful information such as details about care fee planning, benefits, guidance on dementia care, independent living equipment and much more. 

Managing Director, Ken Waterhouse, who has spent over 30 years in the care sector is happy to provide a free consultation with those considering care or their friends and family.

To book an appointment please contact ken@homecarepreferred.com or phone 020 8364 3670.